the one

what attracts one to a member of the opposite sex?
is it the physical attributes? or the emotional connection? or just the fact that you have fun with so and so person? maybe you really really like their hairstyle and decide to spend the rest of your life with them??
how does one decide?
how do you know if you've found 'the one' or whether you ever will?

wouldn't it be really easy if one day, a person turns up in front of your house wearing a flashing neon sign which says 'I'M THE ONE'? you shriek, gasp and walk off into the sunset holding hands.

or if whenever you see 'the one' , suddenly there are red hearts ,pink flowers and a blue haze floating around said person? you blink,stare and then grasp the unsuspecting person in a bear hug simultaneously sobbing " i've found you! i've found you! ".

or what if once you've reached the age at which you are supposed to meet 'the one' , you get a letter which states :
"dear so-nd-so
happy birthday!
it is our privilege to inform you that your significant other (in other words 'the one' ) lives at so- nd-so address and we have arranged for you to meet him on so-nd-so date.
hope you enjoy the rest of your lives. together.
best wishes
the ministry of match-makers"
i mean..tell me..doesn't that sound so much easier??

ok..so we are left to fend for ourselves...which brings me back to my original question..what attracts one to a member of the opposite sex?
money?status?intelligence?looks?hands?feet?fingernails?hair follicles?what??

how does one decide to spend the rest of their lives with one (hopefully 'the one') person?
isn't variety the spice of life?
life without spice..really??

of course in today's world, the concept of 'the one' has undergone a few dratic changes.it has now become 'the two's/three's/four's' (tick as preferred)..
of course, in the case of more adventurous individuals the denominations can go up to 50 even..

you see a couple walking down the road hand in hand.. gazing at each other lovingly and sharing a milkshake..you smile benevolently thinking " isn't love wonderful? " and wipe your unshed tears.
the next day you see the same couple holding hands and walking down the road...with different people..!
hellooooo??whatever happened to happily ever after and walking into the sunset??

sometimes i feel it's just not fair..
where is the justice in a few people walking around with prospective ' the one's' practically dripping out of their pockets while a few are hard put to find even a half , much less a 'one'..

everybody should have somebody to love and somebody loving them back..who decides that only such and such people are allowed to find their 'ones' while the rest of us are left outside shivering in the cold and wondering what's wrong with us ..
" maybe my lipstick was the wrong color? ", " i knew i should have worn my pink jacket !"

of course, people say that you'll find ' the one ' eventually.. ..when??when??

when i'm 40 and too fat to wear sexy chiffon dresses and dance on the beach? when i'm 65 and too tired to walk hand in hand and of course, too selfish to share my milkshake? when i'm 85 and unable to indulge in a heady kiss for fear of my dentures falling out?

i'm sorry!
i demand justice!!!
i demand red hearts and pink bubbles and sprkling confetti and violins and angels !!
i demand equality for all! NO discrimination!

anyway, if anger and protest was the solution... i would have a queue of 'one's' lined outside my door.. yelling to be let in ..
but it's not.. faith and patience is..

or maybe just the right shade of lipgloss??